A Saudi family therapist has released a video on the ‘correct way’ for Muslims to ‘discipline their wives’. According to him, it id by using a toothpick or handkerchief.
Khaled Al-Saqaby released the footage earlier this year. He urges men not to physically abuse their wives but pursue three courses of action should they need ‘discipline’ – first talk to them, then ‘forsake them in bed’ and finally beat them.
He said wives ‘undoubtedly’ cause problems because many ‘want to live a life of equality with their husbands’, which is a ‘very grave problem’.
Sitting in an unknown woodland location, he explains why men may need to discipline their wives but outlines how to do it safely and according to Islam.
In the video, he says:
‘I am aware that this issue is a thorny one which contains many hazards, but Allah willing we will cross this bridge safely.
‘I believe the problem arises when husbands do not understand how to deal with disobedience. Some women disobey their husbands and make mistakes with them, and their husbands think this is due to inadequate treatment [of disobedience].’
‘The first step is to remind her of your rights and of her duties according to Allah. Then comes the second step – forsaking her in bed.
‘Here some husbands make mistakes which might exacerbate the problem.’
Mr Al-Saqaby goes on to explain how men should remain sharing a bed with their wives but turn their back on them, rather than one of the couple sleeping in a different room or on the floor.
‘As a woman once told me, this is the most ingenious way to discipline a wife. If the husband leaves the room it is easier for her than if he remains but turns his back to her or if he sleeps on the floor or vice versa.’
Finally comes physical action, although Mr Al-Saqaby stresses it should not be a way for a husband to ‘vent one’s anger’.
He said: ‘Women have to understand the aim is to discipline. The necessary Islamic conditions for beating must be met.
‘The beating should not be performed with a rod, nor should it be a headband, or a sharp object which, I am sad to say, some husbands use.
‘It should be done with something like the sewak tooth-cleaning twig or with a handkerchief, because the goal is to merely make the wife feel that she was wrong in the way she treated her husband.’
The video was recorded in February but was released this week via the Washington DC-based Middle East Media Research Institute.