While there’s nothing wrong in showing interest in the man you like, it is traditional that the man makes the first move such as asking a girl out on a first date or even in proposing marriage.
For most of us, this is the way a wonderful relationship works out because we are comfortable with this setting. So how do you get a man to chase you without making it obvious?
Alicia Fanning of All Women Stalk lists a few ways ladies can achieve that feat:
Stop it: These tactics can be used at any point in a relationship, from the very beginnings to well into a marriage. If you want to change up the status quo and find ways to get him to chase you instead of you chasing him, it is totally doable. All you need to do is stop. Stop chasing him. There may a bit of a standstill before the tide turns but if he cares about you, rest assured that it will turn.
Pull back: Sometimes you not only need to stop what you are doing in chasing him but you need to give him some distance and space to work with. Be patient and see what happens. It can actually be quite exciting to see what he will do when you pull back. Pulling back means that you allow him to miss you and that you don’t make it your responsibility to take control for every interaction and communication. You may just be pleasantly surprised.
Flirt: This is a very fun way to get him to chase you. Flirting is a great way to get his attention and make him want to pursue you. There are a thousand ways to do this, at least. You can tease him but make him do the work here. Most guys like the chase element of a relationship and tend to be much more interested when they are allowed to do that.
Remember that neediness repels: The average man does not like a woman that is needy. Making demands of what you want from him will not make him chase you and he very well may run. Additionally, whining to get the attention you want will be like nails on a chalkboard to him. If you think about it, when you see a woman that is very needy, it probably repels you too. No-one ever wants to be like that.
Be confident: Your confidence is most likely the top personality trait that makes you attractive to your guy. There is something about a woman that is self-assured that men find irresistible. Being confident is something that you have to work at. Know who you are and know your worth. Make him work for the prize of you a little bit.
Play hard to get: This is an old, old trick but it is still around because it works. You don’t want to be too easy of a prize to achieve. Don’t answer the phone on the first ring. Make him wait just a few minutes while you finish getting ready for a date. Most importantly, have standards and actually be hard to get. When you do this, you will be the one that ends up with the prize, a man of integrity.
Be busy: This one is to be handled carefully. You don’t want to be too busy. However, you need to have a life and let him know that you do. Letting him be your whole world isn’t good for him or for you. This will only make you more attractive to him.