Abel Abel

I Don’t Believe In Happily Ever After

Ok…
It’s like this.
I don’t believe in ‪#‎Happily_Ever_After‬.
I believe love will eventually fade and feelings will die.
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I’m not a fan of a woman(most especially) telling all her secrets to a man. I’m not a fan of a woman telling a man her family problems.
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I just think along the line, the man will use it against her in future.
See,
I feel, it’s not everything, secrets, information your spouse should know about you as a woman.
Same also with the man.
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I will explain to you.
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In my opinion, I feel if a woman sleeps with men for money, let’s call her a prostitute. I don’t think the man she will get married to in future should know.
It’s not his business to know. He’s not in the position to know.
Fine! He may claim he loves her regardless which may be true. But do you know what will happen in 5years time?
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Let’s say, after marriage and something happens.
The man might use her days of prostitution against her.
This thing happens.
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Same way a man would always use the fact that he got married to a woman because she got pregnant.
Especially if he’s not successful and his friends are.
He will heap all blames on her.
Blame her for tying him down with pregnancy.
Blame her for forcing him.
Blame her even for the problems that are yet to come.
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I understand you are crazy in love now.
You can’t do without each other. Ever thought about the future?
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Even the case of an abortion.
I don’t think it’s ideal to let a man know, in my opinion. He doesn’t have to know. He shouldn’t know.
Let’s say it happens babies ain’t coming, he will blame you for killing all the babies even if you did just one abortion.
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So there’s a case of a 28year old Doctor that got married to her husband against her parent’s wish.
According to the story, her father is against them getting married. Her father wants her to marry someone else. But this someone else doesn’t want his daughter(the 28yrs old Doctor) anymore.
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It happened that, the girl got married to her heartthrob in court, without her parent’s consent.
Newsflash, her father got the man arrested for kidnapping his daughter and some other charges. Well, she took it to social media and you know how social media now works, the man was released.
She has her husband.
She hopes to live happily ever after.
I hope she does too.
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But something was ringing in my head.
Would she be proud going against her father, mother and family in 5 or more years?
Would she look back and give herself a pat on the back for defending the man she calls her husband?
Will her husband still be the same sweetheart he is?
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I’m not praying anything bad happens.
I’m just saying,
Won’t her husband use it against her in future?
Like saying “do you even have a family?”
What if it happens that she has issues with him, and she’s supposed to gather family members. Who will help her?
I think it’s a good thing she fought for the man she loves. But going against her father?
Nah! I can’t do that.
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I believe my parents will accept any man I bring home, if it happens they don’t. Rather than fight them, I’m chilling. They won’t be angry in 6months – 1year time. They will later accept him.
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I know a woman that got pregnant when she was still in SS2. Her family chased her away to live with the man.
She did.
And they became husband and wife. No marriage rites done.
She gave birth to more children.
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The gist is, he doesn’t respect her. He accuses her of all the problems he has. She works and earns a meagre salary of N4000. He collects all the money. She uses groundnut oil as her cream.
She can’t go back to her family, they disowned her.
The man’s family? They are making life hell for her.
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The man is quick to remind her she doesn’t have a family, he even says to her, even if he kills her, nothing will happen to him.
Sadly, he’s right.
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So think!!!
Will that person still be the same?
Will that person respect you to the very end even when the love is no more?
Will your secrets be used against you?
Will that person be worth it?
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‪#‎WalksOutAndFlipsHair‬