Abel Abel

When I Was Much Younger…

When I was much younger, I used to be the tiniest and ‪#‎skinniest‬ child in the compound.
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My dad would force me to finish my meals. My mom will give me excess food so I can be fat.
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I was this very quiet kid. While other kids played with their toys, I’d stay afar to watch and smile.
The few times I’ve joined to play with them, when it goes down south, I remember a particular girl, always called me ‪#‎Tini_Bey_Ku‬
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Maybe it’s a Yoruba slang or just any pidgin slang but she was shaming me for my size.
I always felt bad, so I’d go tell mommy and she in turn will increase my meals because by all means she wanted me to be fat.
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I grew older, I was still known as that slim girl. Even in school, when I was made the Head Prefect, it was fun and refreshing to see the shocked looks on their faces when I was shown to them as the Head Girl.
They always said, how can this thin girl be the head girl? They never understood.
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I grew older and I’m in the University. A 500level student that’s still seen as a 100level student.
The fun fact is, they say I don’t WALK like a 100level student or TALK like one. But, I’m still being shamed for being so small.
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Even my cousin says it, “see your small yansh” if you are the last girl in the world, I won’t date you”
And my comeback reply would be “obviously, you can’t be the last man on earth, that will be an insult to mankind for having a dullard as their last survivor” smile emoticon
Yep!
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So a random guy sees me on the road and when he calls out with “baby”, “hello”, “pretty”, “model” and I turn deaf ears to his advances. He tries to get to me, so he says, “see as you thin” and I’d look at him, smile and say “thank you sweety”
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The society’s definition of beauty is having big ass and big boobs being like KIM K.
You’d see a photo of a fat woman called “An African Woman” I’m left wondering if I’m American or if the slim ones are from other countries. The women with the big ass, boobs and flesh are the perfect ones, they are the ones God has blessed, they are the ones God created on Sundays.
While the slim ones are created at night and on a Monday.
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When a woman goes for surgery to enhance or change those parts she hates in her body, those parts she’s body shamed, those parts she feels needs enhancement so as to be seen and complimented, you people are the ones that will say she doesn’t appreciate God’s creation. But you forget, you pushed her to do those things.
You forgot, YOU made her do them.
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The photo of Yolanda I uploaded the other day. Not even one positive comment.
Everyone had fun at her expense.
Someone even said, slim girls make him vomit.
Wow!!!
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I wonder if he throws up at the sight of slim or bony girls on the road all the time.
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Some of you said she needs vitamins, others say she’s dry, others offered to feed her.
What did you not say?
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Tomorrow, when Yolanda says she wants to add weight, add ass, boobs and add flesh to her legs, YOU will be the first to say she is ungrateful to God, worse is if she dies in the process.
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There are many reasons why people are the way they are. While some may be okay with that body they were born with, others just aren’t.
It shouldn’t make us less a human.
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I might not be as skinny as Yolanda but I felt bad for her. The words thrown at her.
You think she doesn’t eat.
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If Nicki Minaj can flash her fat ass on Instagram, on TV why can’t a slim girl like Yolanda flash hers?
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This is why that artificial ass ladies wear will continue to sell. Girls do not care anyone.
The society’s which is YOU definition of standard beauty is having all those.
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Fuck shit!
These days, even brains are not considered anymore.
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People like Yolanda can never be fat no matter the vitamins and bag of fufu you feed her with and the obese people you call orobo and feel are dirty or too fat can never be slim.
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Stop body shaming people especially slim people.
All of you.
And no, it’s not because I’m slim.
I always clap back when any human crosses the line.
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