Let’s face the facts; more often than not, women have the power to use their sexuality to get what they want. Even worse, in a relationship, they’re usually the ones who decide when, where and how often you’re going to engage in sex.
Obviously, there was a time when women had no sexual power whatsoever. Even the thought of a woman enjoying sex was virtually unimaginable. But now, knowing what we know, women have orgasms all around and they have become more sexually demanding than ever before.
Even men are trying harder than ever to please their women. I can’t even begin to explain how many letters I receive each day regarding guys who want to satisfy their partners. And that in itself is admirable.
the power to seduce
From a young age, little girls learn to use the power of seduction to get what they want. It begins with daddy; young daughters manipulate their fathers into buying them that new Barbie with the simple bat of an eyelash and those puppy dog eyes.
As they get older, women quickly learn that a little female attention can be used to garner themselves whatever their hearts desire. They laugh at men’s jokes, brush their arm with their hand and flatter their egos a little, and voila, the unknowing gentleman is at said woman’s mercy.
It’s not as though women plan to be this way; in fact, the power of seduction is part of woman’s instinct just as it is man’s instinct to protect what’s his. And so, this power to seduce leads to the power of sex.
not tonight honey
In most relationships, women are the ones who decide on the frequency of sex. And for most guys, their women don’t desire it enough times in a week. And if guys decide to take the bull by the horns and attempt to get things rolling in the bedroom, that may lead to an argument and result in a couch, a blanket and if they’re lucky, a pillow. Ouch.
This leaves guys feeling frustrated that their women just aren’t as keen on sex as they are, and in turn, leaves women feeling angry that all guys want, at least in their mind, is to get in and get off.
But when partners have differing views on sex and how often it should be taking place, it usually leaves both partners feeling empty and unhappy.
Whereas some women view sex as the most sacred of experiences, others still use it as a “scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” barter system. Not only is this unfair, it’s unethical.
Sex is supposed to be that moment in time when everything in the world disappears and it’s just you and your partner, delving into a blissful utopia that is unmatched by anything else. When women start telling guys, “If you buy me that diamond, I’ll give you the ride of your life,” it kind of cheapens the entire ordeal.
It’s bad enough that we live in a world in which everyone is constantly trying to manipulate everyone else in order to get what they want. To come home and receive the same treatment is just heinous.
How can you turn the sexual tables on her?
don’t take it anymore
You can stop this vicious cycle in which your woman decides how often you’re going to have sex, and you no longer have to make deals to get it either. Remember I told you that women have the power to seduce men like it’s their second nature? Well, you have to play on that.
Women are stimulated by the ability to affirm their power of seduction and if you want her to jump all over you the second you walk in the door, you have to give her something to chase after.
If you constantly hound her for sex, you’re not giving her the opportunity to use her powers of seduction to prove that she can get you. Thus you become boring and no longer present a challenge.
want it? come and get it
If you can kiss her passionately so that you make her eyes roll to the back of her head, and leave it at that without letting your hands explore their way to her breasts (or let your penis take a peak at the treat), then you can easily present the kind of challenge she is looking for.
Don’t you want her to occasionally initiate seduction when it comes to lovemaking? If so, then you have to behave like you want it, but don’t need it. Let her use her power of seduction to kick off the steamy romp. If she wants it, let her prove it.
drive her crazy
What you can also do to ensure that she’ll want you more is initiate foreplay yourself; do all that great stuff you do like kiss her, lick her breasts and make your way down to her vagina. Lick her clitoris and stop right there. Smile and tell her that if she wants more, she’s going to have to prove it.
Obviously, you shouldn’t do this constantly, but keep thinking of ways that will fulfill her need to use her seductive prowess to ultimately fulfill both your needs. Lovemaking can be the most enthralling experience of your lives if you keep it interesting and creative.
If you would just learn to play hard to get instead of giving in to your hormonal instincts, you could have your woman wanting more sex than ever. You need to understand that making her feel sexy does not necessarily equate to sex.
If you can seduce her mind, she will definitely want to seduce your body in no time. Tell her she’s sexy and beautiful, kiss her for no reason, make love to her brain, and control your sexual instincts.
All these things will enhance your love life and your relationship as well. Everyone wants things that they have to work for rather than things that are easily handed to them. If she has to make an effort to get you where she wants you, then pleasure will be yours for the taking.
Written by Vanessa Burton, uk.askmen.com