Abel Abel

I Didn’t Know They Were Husband And Wife

My undergraduate final year project supervisors were a man and a woman. I was in Engineering school for 4 years without knowing that these two were a couple. I only knew when I was defending my project; which was a month before my graduation. The woman doesn’t bear her husband’s name. They’ve been married for 30 something years mind.
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The husband is a Dr. Of Engineering; while she is a Dr of Engineering Law (Barr). She prefers to be called by her first name ‘Katryn’, or Dr. ******** (her maiden name). Of course she isn’t Nigerian, she is caucasian British. If she was Nigerian, she would have insisted we address her as Engr. Barr. Dr. MRS. Katryn ****** (Husband’s name).
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I adore this woman because I love it when I can recognize a woman’s achievements without being distracted by her marital status. I hope to get married someday; but I would like people to recognize my achievements without necessarily having to be distracted by my marital status. Katryn is the kind of woman I would want to be career wise. Thus she inspired my decision to go for an LLM after my Engineering degree. (I want to be Engr. Barr. Dr. someday too)
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Nigerians are so obsessed with titles, but one question I ask is; why address a female married Doctor as Dr. Mrs while we don’t address the man as Dr. Mr.?
I have asked this question in the past and all I got was that it is to emphasize the woman’s marital status. Ok, what about also emphasizing the man’s marital status with a Mr.?
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Note: I have observed this trend only amongst Nigerians and a few other Africans.
By normal standard, a Dr. Pharm. Engr. Barr. Arch… etc is what s/he is. Their achievements aren’t linked with their marital status with a Mr. Or Mrs.

Written by Nkechi Bianze