How Do You Get From Being A ‘Nobody’ To Being A ‘Somebody’?

You may have heard this poem before but let me start off by sharing this with you.

This is a little story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.
There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.
Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.
Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody’s job.
Everybody thought that Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it.
It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done

First, what are your reasons you feel you must become a ‘somebody’?

Is it perhaps you feel the weight of the world and the expectations you believe others have of you rested uncomfortably upon your shoulders? Or are these expectations you have for yourself? What do you expect to be gained from making the transition from a ‘nobody’ to a ‘somebody’? We often believe that things would be different if we just had a little more money, a little more power, a little more prestige. A little more this and a little more that and we might finally reach that place in life where we can be happy and carefree.

This, however, is rarely the case. You might have every single thing your heart desires but it is in the nature of man to always want more, to never be completely satisfied; and so the search will be never ending. Like a bumblebee flying from one flower to the other, this is how most people spend their entire lives. Searching for one more hit, one more high, one more moment of happiness that might surpass all the rest. Do we ever get to some final end goal? I can’t say for sure because I’ve never found that place myself but I’d venture to guess that perhaps we never do until we finally die and can stop all of our futile seeking.

Second, what defines being a ‘somebody’ to you?

It seems you already partially answered this in your question. Personality, will, intelligence and appearance. Why do you feel you lack in these areas? Do other people in your life compare you to others and you feel you fall desperately short? Are there people you feel that you just can’t hold a candle to? Perhaps a friend, a colleague, a family member; someone you idolize and look up to but who you fear you will never quite be like? This can cause the biggest problems for people; thinking, “Gosh, if only I could be smart like so and so” or “If only I had so and so’s good looks”. I’m just as guilty of it. There are plenty of people in this world that I look up to and wish that I could emulate. We can waste so much time kicking ourselves in the butt when we try to live up to unrealistic expectations when really we only need to worry about being our true, genuine selves.

No one person can be completely void of personality, will, intelligence or appearance. We may judge each other – and ourselves – by some impossible to reach golden standard but when we can simply see the other as we see ourselves we find that every person has flaws, shortcomings and character defects. It sounds to me like you don’t believe in yourself, you aren’t seeing what you’re truly capable of. Somewhere down the line you began doubting yourself and getting sucked down into a spiral of self-debasement. The truth of the matter is that you are a wholly and utterly unique individual. There is no one in this world quite like you. Every single flaw, every accomplishment, every victory, every failure, every heartache and every celebration inside of you has culminated to create this masterpiece that you call yourself. If you can stop looking at what you don’t possess and see that which you already have you may find that you’ll be singing quite a different tune.

Finally, whats so bad about being a “nobody” in the first place?

Your question begins with a false pretense. That somehow being a nobody is a bad thing. By your standards of what a ‘somebody’ consists of – which honestly is the popular view that society holds in our day and age – these somebody’s are a dime a dozen. However, the true beauty and unique expressions of life are found in those who we perceive to be nobodies. Think to yourself how many people you see on a regular basis in your neighborhood or in your city who are entirely alone. Imagine the beggar on the street, the little old lady at the grocery store walking to her car, the man at the gas pump who has a worn out look to his eyes. The every day, average Joe and Jane are an entire universe unto themselves. In each person that exists there are a thousand stories. Many of these stories we will never get to know. Be that as it may, we can still reach out and connect and take part in unearthing such buried treasure.

My friend, I hope that you might see that you already are somebody. You don’t need the approval of others. You don’t even need the approval of yourself. You are a somebody simply by existing even though you, and the rest of the world, might see yourself as a nobody. There is a story inside of you just waiting to be told. Even in your heartache, your sadness, your suffering and your shame; these too can become tools which you can use to pave the way for someone else walking along a similar road. You may not be somebody in your own eyes but there is someone out there to who you are everything. You may not have found that person. I don’t mean like a significant other, in some romantic kind of context. But there is someone in this world who needs to meet you. Someone who needs to hear the story you have to tell. Like two important pieces of a puzzle, they need to come together in order to find wholeness and healing. Do not fear these unrealistic standards. Realize that in this moment, you are exactly who you need to be.

This post was a response by Christopher Michael Marquez, to the above Question at Quora

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